On the road to who knows where…

{simple tools series}

The other morning I was involved in a practice I like to do a couple of times a week. I sit down with some coffee and make a list of positive aspects for negative (even scary) things – specifically, things I see as uncomfortable or miserable in my life. The process is simple: quickly create a list of 6 positive insights about this thing/person/situation that I complain about, fear, or dislike. (This idea is from the very useful book My Law of Attraction Project Planner by Pamela Thompson and Donna Hawkins). I was feeling annoyingly and sadly lost that day, so I decided to explore what beauty there is in feeling lost (since, ya know, I’m already familiar with the ugliness). Perhaps you can relate!

My Positive Aspects List for Being Lost:

  1. There is no need to give directions. You don’t have to be the tour guide, no need to control things – that’s exhausting! You can put the reins down. Yes!
  2. You can open up to what’s around you – in fact that’s a wonderful thing to do at any time – look around, be aware of and even enchanted by the path you’re on. Even seemingly scary paths have magic and delight along them.
  3. Enjoy spending some time just being befuddled, and you will see that it isn’t the end of the world to be unsure. Plus, isn’t “befuddled” an amazing word! Truthfully, I really like that I don’t always have to know exactly where I’m going.
  4. It’s the perfect time to look for signs – not stressfully and desperately (that is rarely helpful), but with curiosity and delight. What will show up? This is one of my favorite things to do anyway, but it’s especially lovely when you feel lost.
  5. Practice having faith. Know that when the time is right and you are ready that things will become clear again. Have faith in yourself and the Universe (God, Spirit, Source).
  6. Why not catch up on some sleep! You’re not going anywhere right now anyway. In fact, lack of sleep alone can lead to feelings of being lost and confused. Anyway, sleep and taking good care of yourself is always a good step when you feel less than satisfied with your life and yourself.
  7. It can also be a great opportunity to connect and ask for guidance or help. Talk and share with a wise friend. Or check in with your own higher Self for guidance. Here are a few ideas: Try bibliomancy – randomly choose a book, or a passage from a book, with the intention of being guided and see what it has to tell you. Meditation or prayer is a great way to deepen your understanding of what steps to take next on a foggy path, or to just learn that it’s OK to be lost for a bit. You could draw an oracle card (like Tarot, but there are many, many others) and see what message you discover for yourself in the cards. Journaling is another great way to connect with yourself and find answers.

You know, I had to laugh that my list segued into a list of things to DO when you’re feeling lost. And then it became a blog post! (And don’t think I haven’t noticed that another of my recent posts was also about feeling lost…it has a different approach though, so it’s all good! But you can tell where I’m at right now, huh?) I guess what I felt I needed was some action to take – even if that action is to choose inaction.

So, if you’re feeling lost you can look at my positive aspects list and see if anything there is helpful to you. There are some useful tools for when you’re feeling unhappy with how things are or unsure about what’s next.

You could also make your own positive aspects list – which I highly recommend! It helps to see that even when you really dislike something about your life you can look for what isn’t all that bad, and then you can choose which aspects of the situation you want to focus on now. I’ve done it with my messy basement, financial concerns, people who upset me, stressful events, and other situations that I get worked up about. It always helps me to find some balance, and to look at things differently – more happily, in fact!  And, of course, I sometimes even come up with ideas for things I can do to make life better. Which is something I am all about, you know!

I hope this simple tool is of help to you. I have more simple tools in other posts and you can find those here. Best wishes for a fabulous day and certainly contact me at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com if you want to share your journey or have any questions. I’d love to hear from you!

Love,

Cheryl