Puttering for Peace

The Art of Puttering

The Art of Puttering

Call it grounded, centered, being at peace, comfortable in your skin, in the moment, whole, whatever works for you. I’m thinking of the sense you have that you’re here, and you’re just fine; not flying around in a million directions, not in the frustrated past, the scary future, or lost in your head. You are right here, safe and whole – in your Self, regardless of where you actually are. It’s the perfect place to be! At least that’s how it feels to me when I’m connected and fulfilled in this moment.

There are numerous ways to access this feeling of peace and rightness. Here’s a partial list: meditation, visualization, prayer, yoga, spending time in nature, music, making something, exercising, connecting with a friend, etc. Even just stopping for a moment and checking in with your body (feeling the breeze in your hair, your body in the chair, your heart beating) can bring you into this state of grace.

And, recently, I re-discovered a way that’s actually vital to my well-being – puttering, especially around the house. The definition of putter is “to occupy oneself in a desultory but pleasant manner doing a number of small tasks, not concentrating on anything in particular; to move or go in a casual, unhurried way: to loiter”. I’m not sure about you, but to loiter is one of my favorite things! And I like to loiter in my home while occupying myself in a number of small tasks – especially pleasant ones. I re-style my table tops, change out curtains, arrange flowers, move furniture, shine up mirrors, light candles, boogie to a favorite song…

As a double Cancer with a Virgo-ruled 4th house (for you astrology buffs out there) my home is really important to me! I’ve always cared for my home (many homes actually). I am, after all, an interior designer, so I’ve cared for others’ homes too. But I wasn’t aware until recently how vital the intimate connection of undertaking small tasks in a pleasant manner was to me. Lately, I’ve been “busy”, and there were “important” things to do, so I haven’t allowed myself the time to putter. And I suffered, without knowing the cure, until I was so tired I really couldn’t manage anything but some desultory puttering. Immediately, I felt better! The sun came out, clouds parted, and I was myself again, and at peace with the world.

Puttering plants you in the now. It’s attention without stress, yearning, or striving. It cares for the soul home as well as the physical home. It’s caring for the place you live and for yourself. It’s fun! It’s play! And your house looks better too. For me it’s like moving meditation and connection to the divine that lives in all things. It seems inconsequential, unimportant, but it’s not.

What activities center or ground you? What brings you into the moment in a peaceful and pleasurable way? What things do you do that have no particular purpose but to soothe or delight? Are you denying yourself a bit of puttering because you’re too busy?

When you take the time to enjoy pleasurable small activities in this moment you’ll come back to your “important” tasks with a lot more joy and focus. So, go ahead, putter!

With Love,

Cheryl

Romance & You: Enjoy the Romance in Life

Ahhh, romance! It’s delicious, foolish, necessary, a waste of time, sheer pleasure, or absolute pain. Some people love it, and others think it’s just a way to manipulate someone. Some people feel it’s strictly about a boy/girl relationship, or that it’s something someone does for, or to you. If you’re in the group who feel romance is silly and overdone – well, you’ve probably already stopped reading – but if you like a bit of deliciousness, sensuality, passion and love in your life, read on.

I can see why romance gets a bad rap. I was reading definitions of romance today and they range from true love, to something that lacks basis in fact (with several more or less flattering stops in between). Hmmmm. Interesting, yes? But romance is about love, and love is something we can feel for all types of people, and things, and places. I see no reason to limit it to a possible mate. Sure, romantic love is traditionally something you share with a person you desire, but romance can be about anything that makes you feel a bit swoony, or loved and cared for, or valued.

Here’s my definition of romance (also from the dictionary, but chosen to fit my experience of romance): an attraction or appeal to the emotions or senses, a love story, love, passion, a flirtation, an idyll. These are such delightful things to have in your life that I feel they shouldn’t be left up to chance, or a certain person, or even a novel or a movie. These are things you can create in your life right now to enhance beauty, joy, and pleasure!

With Valentine’s Day arriving fast I wanted to share a list I’ve been working on of ways to invite romance into your life. These don’t require a fellow participant, but they could certainly be shared with another. Mostly this list is intended to offer ways to love and care for yourself, to enjoy a delicious life full of joy, to know you don’t need to wait a single moment for another person to take care of you – you’ve got this! If I could teach one thing to my clients, myself, and to you, it would be to understand the truth that the most important relationship you have in this world is with yourself. Fortunately, that is one relationship you can make amazing right now!

Here is my list of ways to add romance to life. Enjoy!

Love, Cheryl