Today I’m preparing for a whole new year!! It’s exciting and I’m thinking about how I want this next year to be as I say goodbye to 2018. How about you? Are you thinking of all of the fun you can have next year? Isn’t it lovely to have a whole new blank slate to dream and create upon?
I always like to stop before the end of the old year and also think about what I don’t want to bring into the fresh, clean new year. A quick little tool you can use to transition from year to year is to consider what you really don’t want to drag along from the past. It helps you know what you don’t want, and also be clear about what you do want as you move ahead to 2019!
I begin with a little collage, or a drawing of flames. You can see my collage for this year below. And then I made a list of the things I want to burn off, release, let go of, not carry forward as I move into the new year. You can write this list on the flames (a paint marker works great for this), or use small scraps of paper to write each item to release on and adhere them to the flames. Now, imagine those old habits, things, thoughts, ways of being just burning away and leaving you with a whole new world! I also list these on a piece of paper or write them in my journal and then with each one I use this prompt: “When I release ________ then I can ________.” It’s a really great way to envision my life without these things.
For example, One of the things I don’t want to bring forward into a new year is envy (or compare and despair). For this I wrote, “When I release envy I can…See everyone’s beauty and celebrate it. I can be as thrilled and happy for them as I would be for myself. I also don’t limit myself (or them) because I accept that anything is possible for everyone – even me! I can see the glory that is available to all of us.” This tells me what I want and how my life can be now, without envy. Pretty delicious!! You can do this quick practice with each of your words and see what is available to you when you release the things you no longer want.
My “Burn it” Collage for 2018
I want to wish you all a really wonderful New Year!! I hope you find this little tool as helpful as I do. It’s such a great way to clear the decks and dream of a new way of being – one that fits who you are now, and helps you to create a life that you adore and that empowers your dreams!
The other morning I was involved in a practice I like to do a couple of times a week. I sit down with some coffee and make a list of positive aspects for negative (even scary) things – specifically, things I see as uncomfortable or miserable in my life. The process is simple: quickly create a list of 6 positive insights about this thing/person/situation that I complain about, fear, or dislike. (This idea is from the very useful book My Law of Attraction Project Planner by Pamela Thompson and Donna Hawkins). I was feeling annoyingly and sadly lost that day, so I decided to explore what beauty there is in feeling lost (since, ya know, I’m already familiar with the ugliness). Perhaps you can relate!
My Positive Aspects List for Being Lost:
There is no need to give directions. You don’t have to be the tour guide, no need to control things – that’s exhausting! You can put the reins down. Yes!
You can open up to what’s around you – in fact that’s a wonderful thing to do at any time – look around, be aware of and even enchanted by the path you’re on. Even seemingly scary paths have magic and delight along them.
Enjoy spending some time just being befuddled, and you will see that it isn’t the end of the world to be unsure. Plus, isn’t “befuddled” an amazing word! Truthfully, I really like that I don’t always have to know exactly where I’m going.
It’s the perfect time to look for signs – not stressfully and desperately (that is rarely helpful), but with curiosity and delight. What will show up? This is one of my favorite things to do anyway, but it’s especially lovely when you feel lost.
Practice having faith. Know that when the time is right and you are ready that things will become clear again. Have faith in yourself and the Universe (God, Spirit, Source).
Why not catch up on some sleep! You’re not going anywhere right now anyway. In fact, lack of sleep alone can lead to feelings of being lost and confused. Anyway, sleep and taking good care of yourself is always a good step when you feel less than satisfied with your life and yourself.
It can also be a great opportunity to connect and ask for guidance or help. Talk and share with a wise friend. Or check in with your own higher Self for guidance. Here are a few ideas: Try bibliomancy – randomly choose a book, or a passage from a book, with the intention of being guided and see what it has to tell you. Meditation or prayer is a great way to deepen your understanding of what steps to take next on a foggy path, or to just learn that it’s OK to be lost for a bit. You could draw an oracle card (like Tarot, but there are many, many others) and see what message you discover for yourself in the cards. Journaling is another great way to connect with yourself and find answers.
You know, I had to laugh that my list segued into a list of things to DO when you’re feeling lost. And then it became a blog post! (And don’t think I haven’t noticed that another of my recent posts was also about feeling lost…it has a different approach though, so it’s all good! But you can tell where I’m at right now, huh?) I guess what I felt I needed was some action to take – even if that action is to choose inaction.
So, if you’re feeling lost you can look at my positive aspects list and see if anything there is helpful to you. There are some useful tools for when you’re feeling unhappy with how things are or unsure about what’s next.
You could also make your own positive aspects list – which I highly recommend! It helps to see that even when you really dislike something about your life you can look for what isn’t all that bad, and then you can choose which aspects of the situation you want to focus on now. I’ve done it with my messy basement, financial concerns, people who upset me, stressful events, and other situations that I get worked up about. It always helps me to find some balance, and to look at things differently – more happily, in fact! And, of course, I sometimes even come up with ideas for things I can do to make life better. Which is something I am all about, you know!
I hope this simple tool is of help to you. I have more simple tools in other posts and you can find those here. Best wishes for a fabulous day and certainly contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you want to share your journey or have any questions. I’d love to hear from you!
Hey all – look at the time! The 4th Quarter is starting soon – where are you with your Word of the Year? I’m laughing now because my personal journey has been bumpy, as it usually is at this point of the year. The good news is that September and the last Quarter are great times to revive your Word and have fun playing with it. Your Word can really make the special events of the last part of the year very meaningful for you.
In fact, above you’ll find a video walk-through of my Word of the Year book. I mention it in the course, but it helps to see it in a video, I think. Despite how it may sound in the video (and BTW I’m not being perfectionist in that video at all – a rough-ish video, indeed :)) I do choose a Word each year (since 2009!), but I don’t always add it to my WOTY book. It all depends on how you want to experience your Word and if you want to take the time to create a book. I wanted to show you some of the things you might share in a book to engage with your Word. It’s a great way, as well, to have something tangible to look back at this year, and in later years. I love how during the year that my Word was Flourishing my journey was all about me understanding what that actually meant and felt like for me. I know that because my book from that year is ALL about that exploration. And it’s still really helpful and relevant information for me.
Here are some ideas and tips for making your own book for your Word of the Year (and you can start any time!):
I made my book from a 8.5″x11″ scrapbook I had around the house. I like that I can use varying sizes of page protectors in it for all kinds of different pages. But you could use a basic binder, or a sketch book, etc. You could create it digitally too. I also used paper, cardstock, and other paper crafting types of products. You could collect cool ephemera that relates to your word and incorporate that too. So many options!
Consider the things you want to remember and record for your Word, and also how often you want to check in with it, and then create some projects that reflect those desires.
Some ideas are:
Journaling prompts to write about
Collages or other artwork you make
A mini scrapbook of WOTY projects or field trips
A written record of your experiences with your Word
Word Play – what your Word means to you, how you chose it, why you want to experience it, ways you want to share it or use it in your life, synonyms, quotes, etc.
And there are more ideas in the video…
Then set aside time to regularly add something to your book and experience your Word in a deeper way.
Don’t worry if you let it go for a while, just enjoy yourself when you do take time to engage.
Go back and look through your book – see the things you’ve learned and accomplished!
Next year I may make a junk journal version of this book and keep it fresh! I love new ideas!!! I hope this is of help to you in your Word of the Year journey. I’d love to hear how things are going. Drop me a line at email@example.com.
Lately I’m regrouping, revising, and just plain starting over in several ways. I’m trying to get across the ground slowly, letting it support me, allowing myself to feel my way. I know that some days require lots of movement, but overall I’m trying to go slowly, be at peace, and mostly to rest and have fun while I allow clarity to come. Some days I really think this is way too hard!
I’m used to pushing, go-getting, working hard, making it happen. Or panicking, stressing & feeling paralyzed. Whew! Neither of those approaches are fun when you’re feeling lost. (Ummm, or very effective…) But they are “easy” because I’m used to them. And yet, I know that when I can let myself slow down, feel my feelings, lighten up, enjoy life, and look at the resistance, then I’m on my way to clear knowing about what to do next. Here’s what I’ve been doing to move slowly & joyfully to my next steps, and to allow the panic, fear, and resistance while not letting them stop or define me. Maybe there’s something here to help you too. I hope so!
The first thing is to not be too bossy. Bossy Girl is a fun and intuition killer, that’s for sure! Instead I check in with my desire, my heart, and I do what feels like pleasure. I let myself let go of the “rules”. I cut myself slack. I tell myself things like: “I always have plenty of time”, “I’m taking vital steps right now by relaxing and allowing my intuition to speak up”, “I’m gradually releasing all resistance and fear”, “I’ll know when the time is right”. Right now it’s time to relax and let go of the strain.
Next, I look under the bed at those monsters that keep me from moving out of my safety zone. For me the resistance is always about thoughts I’ve picked up along the way that aren’t in the least bit helpful. I used to try to change them, but often that brought up more resistance. Now, I write and write until I think I’m to the bottom of them (those beliefs of inadequacy, and idiocy, lack, and shame of failure – messy, ugly stuff). I let myself feel how crappy they feel. I accept the pain of them. And then I set them aside with love (after all, I do think they want to help me) and do something life affirming. I let them work themselves out. And usually they do! They’ll probably pop up later, but I know what to do, and each time they’re a little bit different and I know I’m getting clearer and clearer, and kinder and kinder, and that is what helps me to work with them and not be stopped.
The next part of this process is to do something life affirming. Do something that makes you feel alive, happy, and awakens the feelings of joy you expect to receive from those things you really want to do, but are feeling lost, or stuck, or unsure about. Open up to potential, and serendipity, and messages, and help. Life affirming activities will vary from person to person, and situation to situation, but here are a few things I’m doing now:
Listening to a LOT of Abraham-Hicks – Divine Intervention, I call it! Anything that inspires and/or calms you will do.
Getting back into a good self-reflective groove. For me right now this means spending time journaling, thinking, resting and thinking not at all, watching clouds go by, pulling oracle cards and seeing what they have to say to me, taking naps, making tiny art projects, listing ideas (so many ideas), and generally getting to know myself better. It’s amazing how I can lose myself in the rest of the world and other’s needs and ideas – so, time-out to focus on me.
Taking my sweet time….it really is sweet when I go slowly too. Why the rush anyway? I’m amazed at how fast I think I need to go. Is there plenty that needs doing? Heck yeah! Has rushing around ever meant I got it all done? No, not really.
Hanging out with my dear son while he’s around – delightful!!
Participating in August Break (a daily photography mindfulness practice) with Susannah Conway on Instagram. In fact, this post was inspired by the prompt for today’s photograph – Ground. Serendipity indeed! Such fun to engage in the photography and especially to interact with other participants. If you don’t participate in this already you may want to give it a try!
The best part for me about the process above is thatnow my focus is no longer on the stress and strain of “Whatever will I do next!!!”, but on the way life is gorgeous, and safe, and full of promise. Do I know yet what I’m going to do next? Nope. But each day more and more ideas come, and more and more confidence, and more and more delight, and that is how I want to live. And I have faith that the rest will come too. In fact, the last part of this process is FAITH. And when you get all worked up again remember your faith, and repeat the process as needed.
Part of making things happen is taking action, but a huge part is inspiration, and action without it is often just hard work.
Lots of love! I hope this was of help or there was an idea here that resonated. Contact me with any questions or comments, or to share your story, at firstname.lastname@example.org. Or set up a time to talk (for free, of course) right here.
I was talking with a client recently about how to “be” instead of constantly “do”. She wanted more peace and flow in her life. She wanted less stress about her huge list of things to do, she wanted to enjoy life more in the moment. I want those things too! How about you? Here are few little tools I shared with her, I hope they’ll be useful for you as well!
“Be” WHILE You “Do”
“Be” here right now, no matter what you are doing. Indulge in immersing yourself! It’s like the the Zen proverb “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.” – you don’t have to wait or have special circumstances to “be”. Bring your whole self to a task. Don’t think ahead, plan, ruminate, or worry. It sounds a bit easier to say than do! But it’s such a relief & pleasure when you allow yourself to really get into what you’re doing right now. This is “being” as a form of focus or immersion in the present moment or task, and it’s pretty delicious!
Set a Morning Intention
How do you want to experience life today? With peace, or joy, or acceptance, or (your word here)? Choose how you want to “be”. Now, how does that feel to you? Do other words or feelings come up when you sense into this desired state? When you’re peaceful (or joyful, or accepting, etc.) how do you embody that in your life? Try a mantra: “I am _____ as I embody and embrace ____, ____, and _____. Repeat as needed – and especially feel the feels. Now, choose from your big to-do list based on how you want to feel, and at the same time feel how you want to feel no matter what you have to do! This is “being” through choice and intention.
Be Who You Are and Be OK with it…or Forgiveness 101
Who are you right now – in this moment? If you check in with your inner self often you are well, and that can be a surprise to the part of you wrapped up in a drama! But maybe you aren’t OK. It happens. I spent too much of the month of May frustrated and upset due to some ongoing dramas, but mostly I was distressed because I spent precious time in judgment of myself (and others – it kinda goes together!). I would have been a lot happier if I had just let it all be what it was. Being miserable, or angry, or catty, or sad, or whatever….you can let it be OK. Go there, feel the contrast, as Abraham says. Let it speak it’s full to you. Expression is a relief valve. What is your feeling telling you? A simple step for dealing with upsetting emotions and stories is to forgive yourself (first and foremost), but also that asshole, your parents, your spouse, etc. Just be who you are, let them be who they are, let it be OK. And if you’re feeling fabulous – please, let that “be” also! No guilt, or feeling you don’t deserve it – this is the time to revel!! This is “being” as an expression of acceptance and forgiveness, one of my favorite ways to “be”.
How Can You “Be” the One Who Loves & Cares for Yourself?
This is about “being” as a form of really caring for your own being – loving yourself. If you’re hurt or sad, how can you care for yourself? If you feel lost or angry, do you have ways to tend to your needs and address your deep concerns? You are responsible for this, no one else. For example, maybe you’re feeling like you aren’t valued. You can’t make someone value you, but you can see your value for yourself. If you aren’t willing to see your worth others may not be willing to try either. These may seem like harsh words to some of you, but the truth is they are words of freedom! “Be” what you need for yourself. You’ve got this!
The truth is “being” and “doing” are pretty interwoven in life. It’s delightful to take time to JUST BE, and I highly recommend it as something you set aside time for every day. But personally, I need more than that! So I came up with these ways to “be and do”. There are a variety of ways of “being”, choose your favorites! Or use the ones you find easy to tuck into even a busy day. Let me know what you think – I’m always excited to hear from you! You can write to me at email@example.com. And I have a new FREE course to help your engage with your Word of the Year in fun and meaningful ways. I hope you sign up!
One of the most profound lessons I ever learned was from a book by Martha Beck called The Joy Diet. In that book she shared a tool in which you wrote your life story in a variety of ways – like genres. You began by writing your life as a tragedy. Then you wrote it as a comedy, and finally you wrote your life story as the Hero’s Saga – naturally with you as the hero. This exercise was so amazing to me as it showed me that I could see my own life and all of its happenings in any way that I chose – and each time I told the story from a new perspective I felt different and I saw myself differently. That, my friends, is a form of magic!! Martha’s point was to be aware that you are choosing, and to choose the story that empowers you.
Some people at this point get wrapped up in wondering what the “true” story is. You tell me – is the tragedy more true than the Hero’s Saga? Or are they just different ways to re-experience our past? We can also be very much in love with our stories and not want to see them a different way – because that means we need to see ourselves in a different light and sometimes we choose to stay with a tale that limits us or makes us a victim. (Martha calls the desire to keep telling the same story in the same way “story-fondling”, which is a pretty good name, yes?). The truly great thing about stories is we can use them – not just to share our past experiences and learn from them – but to create our now as well.
Choose Your Future:
Just as Martha suggests going through your past stories and and viewing them in new ways you can do this with your day-to-day life story. For example, when I woke up today I had choices about how to see my day ahead (my story for how today will go). I could choose to see a bunch of “have-to’s” done in succession until I fell exhausted back into bed once again. Try that story on for size …. not very inspiring, huh?! I could see my day as a comedy unfolding with funny experiences and hilarious situations. That feels better! Another option is to see my day as a fantasy story – full of magic, wonder, and curiosity about the world around me. Or I could see myself as the heroine/goddess of my own fate – overcoming fear, sloth, time constraints, and other obstacles and helping people along the way too! Very empowering stuff!! The point is, of course, it is the same list of things to do or decide, the same daily tasks, and the same life, but I choose how to tell my story so that I am in love with it – so that it serves me well. My stories can limit me or uplift me. I decide.
Does this mean you can turn a real tragedy into a comedy, or that you should try? No, absolutely not. Tragedies are a part of life in this world and somehow a vital part of our experience here. Grief, sadness, fear and anger all have their places in life. And you can obviously choose them as your perspective when you want to. And yet, I know that you can make anything better by how you choose to see it. Even grief or misery, if you see them as a valuable part of your journey through a difficult time, can bring you peace and a feeling of purpose. I know from experience that this is true. I tend to see myself as a student of life and all it holds so that when sad things happen I know that a part of it for me is learning something important and that takes my experience from meaningless and tragic to meaningful and a chance to be a better person.
Try it Out!
What type of story “lens” would you like to see your life through? By seeing yourself in a new story, in a new way, you can use your creativity, imagination, and inspiration to enhance your life. Can you heal an old misery by choosing a new perspective on it? Can you create an amazing day by seeing your self as hero of your life? Can you solve a problem or change your future by visualizing yourself as an expert? Here are a few ideas for ways to retell your story – or create the story of your life:
Sci-Fi Story (with, or without robots!)
Inspiring Read for Entrepreneurs
Guide to Excellent Health
The Ultimate Self-Help Guide
A Hero’s Story
When you write your story using a perspective that interests and excites you your eyes open to new ways of being! So, am I telling you that you can make your life whatever you want it to be? Pretty much. Will there obstacles, and problems, and difficulties, and fears – most likely. Most stories, you will notice, include these elements. It’s how the protagonist handles them that makes the difference, and that’s true for you too! And it all begins with choosing the story you really want. The one that allows you to see yourself as the person you want to be and able to inhabit the story you really want to live in. Your type of story may change from day to day and that’s totally OK (and normal), but I hope you will also be aware of what you are choosing and where that might take you. You have the power, and no matter what type of story you choose to tell you are the HERO!
Happy story telling!! I’d love to hear yours! Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also sign up for my emails and a free course about creating altars to clarify and attract your best life.