Magazine Collage by Cheryl
(Simple Tools for Changing Times)
I was talking with a client recently about how to “be” instead of constantly “do”. She wanted more peace and flow in her life. She wanted less stress about her huge list of things to do, she wanted to enjoy life more in the moment. I want those things too! How about you? Here are few little tools I shared with her, I hope they’ll be useful for you as well!
“Be” WHILE You “Do”
“Be” here right now, no matter what you are doing. Indulge in immersing yourself! It’s like the the Zen proverb “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.” – you don’t have to wait or have special circumstances to “be”. Bring your whole self to a task. Don’t think ahead, plan, ruminate, or worry. It sounds a bit easier to say than do! But it’s such a relief & pleasure when you allow yourself to really get into what you’re doing right now. This is “being” as a form of focus or immersion in the present moment or task, and it’s pretty delicious!
Set a Morning Intention
How do you want to experience life today? With peace, or joy, or acceptance, or (your word here)? Choose how you want to “be”. Now, how does that feel to you? Do other words or feelings come up when you sense into this desired state? When you’re peaceful (or joyful, or accepting, etc.) how do you embody that in your life? Try a mantra: “I am _____ as I embody and embrace ____, ____, and _____. Repeat as needed – and especially feel the feels. Now, choose from your big to-do list based on how you want to feel, and at the same time feel how you want to feel no matter what you have to do! This is “being” through choice and intention.
Be Who You Are and Be OK with it…or Forgiveness 101
Who are you right now – in this moment? If you check in with your inner self often you are well, and that can be a surprise to the part of you wrapped up in a drama! But maybe you aren’t OK. It happens. I spent too much of the month of May frustrated and upset due to some ongoing dramas, but mostly I was distressed because I spent precious time in judgment of myself (and others – it kinda goes together!). I would have been a lot happier if I had just let it all be what it was. Being miserable, or angry, or catty, or sad, or whatever….you can let it be OK. Go there, feel the contrast, as Abraham says. Let it speak it’s full to you. Expression is a relief valve. What is your feeling telling you? A simple step for dealing with upsetting emotions and stories is to forgive yourself (first and foremost), but also that asshole, your parents, your spouse, etc. Just be who you are, let them be who they are, let it be OK. And if you’re feeling fabulous – please, let that “be” also! No guilt, or feeling you don’t deserve it – this is the time to revel!! This is “being” as an expression of acceptance and forgiveness, one of my favorite ways to “be”.
How Can You “Be” the One Who Loves & Cares for Yourself?
This is about “being” as a form of really caring for your own being – loving yourself. If you’re hurt or sad, how can you care for yourself? If you feel lost or angry, do you have ways to tend to your needs and address your deep concerns? You are responsible for this, no one else. For example, maybe you’re feeling like you aren’t valued. You can’t make someone value you, but you can see your value for yourself. If you aren’t willing to see your worth others may not be willing to try either. These may seem like harsh words to some of you, but the truth is they are words of freedom! “Be” what you need for yourself. You’ve got this!
The truth is “being” and “doing” are pretty interwoven in life. It’s delightful to take time to JUST BE, and I highly recommend it as something you set aside time for every day. But personally, I need more than that! So I came up with these ways to “be and do”. There are a variety of ways of “being”, choose your favorites! Or use the ones you find easy to tuck into even a busy day. Let me know what you think – I’m always excited to hear from you! You can write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. And I have a new FREE course to help your engage with your Word of the Year in fun and meaningful ways. I hope you sign up!
Lots of Love,
(and how they can change our lives)
Choose Your Story:
One of the most profound lessons I ever learned was from a book by Martha Beck called The Joy Diet. In that book she shared a tool in which you wrote your life story in a variety of ways – like genres. You began by writing your life as a tragedy. Then you wrote it as a comedy, and finally you wrote your life story as the Hero’s Saga – naturally with you as the hero. This exercise was so amazing to me as it showed me that I could see my own life and all of its happenings in any way that I chose – and each time I told the story from a new perspective I felt different and I saw myself differently. That, my friends, is a form of magic!! Martha’s point was to be aware that you are choosing, and to choose the story that empowers you.
Some people at this point get wrapped up in wondering what the “true” story is. You tell me – is the tragedy more true than the Hero’s Saga? Or are they just different ways to re-experience our past? We can also be very much in love with our stories and not want to see them a different way – because that means we need to see ourselves in a different light and sometimes we choose to stay with a tale that limits us or makes us a victim. (Martha calls the desire to keep telling the same story in the same way “story-fondling”, which is a pretty good name, yes?). The truly great thing about stories is we can use them – not just to share our past experiences and learn from them – but to create our now as well.
Choose Your Future:
Just as Martha suggests going through your past stories and and viewing them in new ways you can do this with your day-to-day life story. For example, when I woke up today I had choices about how to see my day ahead (my story for how today will go). I could choose to see a bunch of “have-to’s” done in succession until I fell exhausted back into bed once again. Try that story on for size …. not very inspiring, huh?! I could see my day as a comedy unfolding with funny experiences and hilarious situations. That feels better! Another option is to see my day as a fantasy story – full of magic, wonder, and curiosity about the world around me. Or I could see myself as the heroine/goddess of my own fate – overcoming fear, sloth, time constraints, and other obstacles and helping people along the way too! Very empowering stuff!! The point is, of course, it is the same list of things to do or decide, the same daily tasks, and the same life, but I choose how to tell my story so that I am in love with it – so that it serves me well. My stories can limit me or uplift me. I decide.
Does this mean you can turn a real tragedy into a comedy, or that you should try? No, absolutely not. Tragedies are a part of life in this world and somehow a vital part of our experience here. Grief, sadness, fear and anger all have their places in life. And you can obviously choose them as your perspective when you want to. And yet, I know that you can make anything better by how you choose to see it. Even grief or misery, if you see them as a valuable part of your journey through a difficult time, can bring you peace and a feeling of purpose. I know from experience that this is true. I tend to see myself as a student of life and all it holds so that when sad things happen I know that a part of it for me is learning something important and that takes my experience from meaningless and tragic to meaningful and a chance to be a better person.
Try it Out!
What type of story “lens” would you like to see your life through? By seeing yourself in a new story, in a new way, you can use your creativity, imagination, and inspiration to enhance your life. Can you heal an old misery by choosing a new perspective on it? Can you create an amazing day by seeing your self as hero of your life? Can you solve a problem or change your future by visualizing yourself as an expert? Here are a few ideas for ways to retell your story – or create the story of your life:
- Success Story
- Comedic Memoir
- Sci-Fi Story (with, or without robots!)
- Lighthearted Romance
- How-To Bestseller
- Magical Fantasy
- Inspiring Read for Entrepreneurs
- Adventure Story
- Guide to Excellent Health
- The Ultimate Self-Help Guide
- A Hero’s Story
When you write your story using a perspective that interests and excites you your eyes open to new ways of being! So, am I telling you that you can make your life whatever you want it to be? Pretty much. Will there obstacles, and problems, and difficulties, and fears – most likely. Most stories, you will notice, include these elements. It’s how the protagonist handles them that makes the difference, and that’s true for you too! And it all begins with choosing the story you really want. The one that allows you to see yourself as the person you want to be and able to inhabit the story you really want to live in. Your type of story may change from day to day and that’s totally OK (and normal), but I hope you will also be aware of what you are choosing and where that might take you. You have the power, and no matter what type of story you choose to tell you are the HERO!
Happy story telling!! I’d love to hear yours! Send me an email at email@example.com. You can also sign up for my emails and a free course about creating altars to clarify and attract your best life.
All the best!
Tulip (by Cheryl)
The short version of this tool is – check in with your heart, especially when you aren’t sure. OK, go forth! But seriously, this is a practice that I use all day and every day now. It’s so ingrained that I didn’t even think of it as a “tool” when I was coming up with ideas for this series (Simple Tools for Changing Times), but it’s probably my most helpful practice of all. Your heart knows…as they say! And that is true. When you listen to your heart you’re in alignment with your values, and needs, and your true Self. It took some practice when I first began to be able to feel clearly what my heart was saying, and also to remember to actually check in.
Here are a few tips to help you to hear your heart.
Why: This tool helps you to know yourself better. It will assist you in embracing your desires, caring for your needs, and allow you to really enjoy your life! Your body and your heart know what is truly needed and desired. Your mind will get busy, confused, and lost in stories. We all have lots of “rules” and reasons for not doing what’s in our best, most joyful (and healthiest) interest, but your heart only wants you to live a life of love and joy. It’s also a great way to get clear on things that are hard to “figure out”. I love to use it for decisions – the more immediate and important the better information you’ll get.
What: I’m talking about a practice of checking in with yourself regularly and using the sensations around your heart area to let you know when you’re “on track” for you. You simply get quiet, look inside, and be aware of the feelings in your heart area. For example, when something is “right” for me I feel a softness, expansion, warmth, and a glow around my heart area. I may see a glow in my mind’s eye too. I may smile (I often smile if it’s really a good idea!), my shoulders may drop and relax, I straighten up my body, I feel expansive and lighter.
Your sensations could be different than mine, though a sense of expansion is the most common description. A way to check this is to think of something absolutely wonderful about your life now and see how your heart feels about that. This tells you your own language of the heart. Conversely, something that doesn’t feel good to your heart tends to show up as contraction, clenching, tightness, folding in (shoulders bent, etc.), tightness of breath, and even discomfort in your throat and/or stomach areas. If your heart is neutral about something that will feel, well, neutral, in your body too.
When: I use this tool all day long. It’s perfect for having a quick check in to see how you’re really doing right now. I like to make sure I’m on track with my internal wisdom. We often get all bundled up in what’s happening and forget to stop and look inside. There’s wisdom there! And the encouragement to pause and look inward, just for a moment even, makes for a much more delightful day. Plus, it feels really GOOD when your heart is happy! I want more of that!
My favorite way to use this tool is for decisions that I’m confused or distressed about. My head can go ‘round and ‘round a subject and make me crazy! But my heart generally has a good idea about what I truly want and need. I also may ask for assistance with this. You can ask your higher Self, an angel, God, or any guide to help you to understand what you are hearing, and to hear truly. Getting clear on a decision may take some practice and require quiet time and focus. The best way for me is to ask, sense, and then write – as I often get more information that way. As I write, I’ll keep checking in to make sure I’m still listening to my heart.
The responses you get aren’t really yes” or “no” answers, though sometimes you may use them that way. They tell you what is in alignment with your spirit or soul. You can do anything you choose, this is just more information to help you. I prefer to go with my heart and have made a commitment to that, but still there are times that I don’t. And following your heart may just mean finding a new approach, or altering your thinking about something and making it work for you. I may just keep making shifts or trying new ideas until it all feels “right”. This isn’t about rules or “shoulds”, but about honoring yourself and being open to what you desire and need to live a delicious and meaningful life.
Wishing you love, clarity, and lots of pleasure in this season of the heart! Drop me a line with questions or comments at firstname.lastname@example.org (or look here). If you have a question or want more help with this practice you can go here and schedule a free 20 minute session and we’ll work on it together!
People are always telling me they don’t know what they want, and I know they’re unsure about it. I also know that there are plenty of reasons for shutting down or hiding your desires. Where I begin when I’m unsure is with what I don’t want. Oddly, (or not!) these ideas can be a lot easier to access. They can also be upsetting because they deal in fears, or anger, or discontent. We may believe we aren’t supposed to acknowledge them (negative thinking!), or conversely we may spend a lot of our time wrapped up in these things that cause us stress or misery. Regardless, looking at them with an open mind can help you find what you do want, guaranteed!
Sometimes we know what we want, but we have reasons for ignoring our desires. Reasons like: I don’t have the time, money, energy, etc.; I don’t know how; it would upset other people; it’s such a big change – it’s scary; I don’t know if I’d succeed; people will think I’m weird…and many more. We block our desires and even think they’re wrong or somehow impossible. We deny ourselves (and I firmly believe) the world the grace of our dreams coming true.
Recently, I was dreaming of the perfect part-time job, but honestly, I couldn’t see how I would ever find one. I knew what I didn’t want, and much of what I did, but none of the jobs I looked at were going to offer me what I desired. So, I listened to my heart and she said to turn the whole thing over to God (Source, Spirit, the Divine…) and quit worrying about it! Have faith, be patient. Well, I don’t know about you, but I’m not exactly a master at this type of thing! Still, I gave it my best shot. And I mostly forgot about it. My heart suggested that instead of fretting, perhaps, I could make some space in my life for this new job. So, I did. And a few days later a friend called, a friend I had actually forgotten I’d told about wanting a part-time job, and she told me about a position at a lovely place that was exactly what I was hoping for – and more. I tell you, I leaped!! And now I have the world’s best (for me) part-time job, and I’m able to be of help to my employers too. I just love win-wins!!
So how do you use what you don’t want to get what you do?
- First, take a kind look at what you really do not want to help you get clear, and to open up a dialog with your heart. (Hello Heart, I hate where I live, but I can’t see any way to change it, and I don’t know what I want either, etc. As an aside…A client of mine had these very concerns and few months after she got clear and opened up to what she wanted she was in a home she really loved!)
- Listen and ask questions, or answer the ones your heart offers you. Perhaps questions like: What do you hate? Why? Does this involve a big change, like a move, or will an update work? What do you truly want (without any censoring by that mean voice who says you can’t)? What makes your heart feel happy, warm, expansive, joyful, etc? Make yourself an “I desire” list.
- What does your heart suggest you do? If you can see a way forward – even one small step – then go for it!! Have faith the next step will come when you are ready.
- Be ready. Be open to getting what you really want. Be open to having your desires fulfilled. Open your arms (I mean really, open them wide right now!) and welcome your desires home to you. With love. And if any steps are suggested here – then do them. Like my making space in my life for a new job showed my faith and openness, you can take a step that feels good to you and signals your willingness to receive.
- Wait. We have a timing in our minds that isn’t always tied to our best outcomes. This can be where you lose faith, start to worry again, and take steps that don’t feel good (or help) at all. This is where all the reasons why it won’t work, or why you don’t deserve it, or …whatever… come up. In my story it sounds like I got clear about what I did and didn’t want, gave it over to God, and opened my arms, and then it easily happened. And that is absolutely true! But it took a while to get clear. In between, my faith wavered and wobbled. I was afraid my willingness to wait was really just a cop out, I had doubts that this would really work, etc. Hang in there!
- Relax and Reimagine while you wait. Look again at your “I desire” list. Even if your desire is fairly vague (I just want to feel better about my health), gently feel what it’s like to have that desire. Perhaps find a small step you can take. Stay open and willing. Reconnect with your faith. It’s best to keep this low key and calm. Personally, I had to keep turning it over to God and getting out of the way. You can even forget about it – yes forget!! And if you start to feel clingy and obsessed, definitely step back and find the good feelings again.
This is a process and it may even need to be repeated. Clarity can require more than one pass. Being ready is mostly about you, but there could be other factors. It can be hard to be patient and calm when you’re unhappy. I kept telling myself that I wanted a part-time job, but I’d done OK for years without one, so I knew I would be OK regardless. I also had faith that my concerns would be addressed – perhaps another job wasn’t actually the best solution – I was open to other options. This is a discovery process really, you’re finding a solution to a concern with help from the Universe and your Higher Self. Give yourself the grace of enjoying the exploration!
May all of the things we don’t want turn into things we DO want! If you have any questions, as always, you can email me at email@example.com. Or I would love to talk with you!! Set up an appointment here and choose the free 20 minute “Getting to Know You” session (this is not a sales conversion call, it is just a 20-30 minute conversation between the two of us). I sincerely hope all of your dreams come true!
Lessons in Pleasure
Winter Scene (by Cheryl)
Well, yes, 2017 was an interesting year! I’m not going to go into just how interesting – there are plenty of people who enjoy analyzing and judging the past year. I don’t want to write about any of that! I want to talk about what lessons we each took in and that made our lives more tenable, lovely, and wise.
To me this year seemed like an upside-down duck. You know, the duck looks all serene floating on the surface of the water, but underneath she’s actually paddling madly! Instead this year the surface of things looked chaotic, and scary, and quite a bit mad, but just under the surface I could sense a deep, calm beauty, and love. It is there as sure as the apparent chaos, and I’m so grateful for that and the people I know who shine with that calm beauty for the world to see. I will keep tapping into that stream as much as I can! To me that is the Truth and also our saving grace.
Part of this experience for me was the influence of my Word of the Year – Pleasure. That choice was a bit of a reaction to my Word of the previous year, Flourishing. Let me tell you that was one intense manifesting and happening year! But despite so many dreams come true I felt that I didn’t always let myself enjoy the beautiful things that happened. So I chose a Word for 2017 that would help me to learn how to allow more enjoyment of life. Well, if you’re anything like me what you expect when you choose a Word isn’t always (ever?) what you get! And yet it seems that no matter what Word you choose the lessons are just what you need to know. This year was no different! Instead of enjoying more Pleasure I learned a lot about how I block Pleasure in my life. And I learned that regardless it is always, always available. This is something I already knew, in a sense, for in the past during my very worst times there have also been joys, and loves, and small treasures that elevate life to true beauty; and this year was no exception. But the ability to really let myself sink into the delicious pleasures of life was, well, still hard for me.
However, I must say I HAVE learned over the year, and I’m getting better at Pleasure! I’m also much better at addressing those crazy stories that shut Pleasure right down. (You know, like – you can’t have fun until ALL of the work is finished – as if that ever happens! Or you don’t deserve Pleasure! You haven’t done enough to earn it, or you aren’t good enough…blah, blah, blah!) But what I learned even more is that the key to Pleasure and to enjoying it is the willingness to embrace it! In fact the willingness to embrace it all has been the thing that has ushered in the most Pleasure for me this year. That has allowed me to go past the surface and find the joy and peace underneath what seems to be going on.
So, because I really want to learn more about all of this….meet my new Word of the Year for 2018 – EMBRACE!! I chose to be willing to Embrace it all n 2018. Whew! I’m really looking forward to this new journey. What will I learn now? That’s a little bit scary really! But, I find a good Word of the Year is definitely a bit of a stretch.
What have you learned this year? Was there a word, or phrase, or a song lyric that really stood out for you? If you chose a Word of the Year – what experiences and lessons did it bring you? What is your Word for 2018? I’d love to hear what you think and what you’ve learned!! You can email me right here: firstname.lastname@example.org (just copy and paste into your email address line). Or set up a free mini session here.
AND I will soon be sending out a free, short email series (to my subscribers – sign up here) on what to do with your Word of the Year once you have it! It’s packed full of ways to play with, interact with, and just get to know more about your chosen Word through the next year.
Lots of Love to you and yours, and wishes for a truly Delight-filled New Year!!!
How to Fashion the Holiday of Your Dreams
Oh, Christmas Tree! (Image by Cheryl)
Lofty ambitions, yes?? But it is definitely possible to enjoy the holidays no matter what is going on in your life! (I can say this from personal experience of major loss, huge upheavals, and fears of dark winter days). Even if there are no big events that have caused us woe we can hold a lot of negative expectations of the holiday season – crowds, grumpy shopkeepers, unpleasant relatives, money stresses, etc. On the other hand we may have very hopeful expectations, especially about other people in our lives, that are not realized and make us feel unsatisfied and unhappy. But I want you to consider this – the only true maker of happiness in your life is you. That is a beautiful power for good! And not just for you – it blesses everyone you come into contact with! I’m not saying you don’t derive joy from your relationships and situations, but that you are the decider of what does make you happy. And with that in mind I came up with my Holiday Dreaming Practice. I can’t tell you how much I have needed it over the years!!
The Big Picture:
As with most things I suggest, it all begins with the Big Picture – or dreaming of what you desire! I began my professional life as an interior designer and I still find the design process has a lot of relevance to creating anything – especially a beautiful life! In design we begin with the DREAM – un-edited, un-purged, wide-open desire!! This is the road to clarity, and also motivation and intention. Below are some questions to consider and write in a handy place (you know, so you can find it again!).
- What do you really want to do this holiday season? This is a list of non-negotiables (I really want to make Christmas cookies with my kids); and the things you have always wanted to do, but perhaps don’t (I really want to go see the Nutcracker ballet!); plus those delightful things that get pushed aside (I really want to spend time each day with a cup of coffee enjoying the Christmas tree and day-dreaming).
- How do you really want to feel? I’m guessing stressed isn’t on this list! By writing down and being aware of what you really want to feel you’re able to make it a priority, and even with the holiday rush that may come you can find those feelings – regardless of what you may be doing. My list includes feeling pleasure in the season, feeling the spaciousness of plenty, feeling the delight of creating a beautiful experience, feeling the joy of love, and the enjoyment of making things.
- What do you honestly expect? This is a question that can go several ways, but it’s key to be honest with yourself. I used to write things like a gift I wanted, or snow, or to be very happy, but the truth is that was what I hoped for. What I really expected was frustrations, dark days, cold weather, and sadness due to loss. It’s true that these things exist each and every holiday session, BUT (you were sure there was a but, yes?) I also can expect so many other lovely and beautiful things. What I learned was if I wasn’t aware, then my depressing expectations wound take over. They say what you resist persists – but also what you allow to lie in wait can jump you. That is OK if you will also make time for the beauty of life. Sadness, and fear, and angst are parts of life, but love, and joy, and peace are what I call the Truth with a capital “T”. Also they are what this blessed season is all about!!
Take a Trip:
Our next step is taking a Trip of Imagination. You can do this several ways. You could write out a story of the best holiday season you can imagine. Include all of the smells, sights, feelings, and joys you encounter. Put yourself right into this story and feel the pleasures now! Or you could create a board of images and ideas. I used to fill my office door with photos, ideas, and beautiful images that spoke to me of the holiday I wanted to have. Making a collage like this on your refrigerator and getting the whole family involved would be a lot of fun too! Just looking at the images is a reminder of what you want to enjoy. This year I don’t have a handy door so I made a Dream Board – and I think I like that even better!! A Dream Board is like an Insight Board (see how to make one of those here!) but the focus is on the dreams that you have but perhaps have stuffed away, or the ones you dismiss due to lack of, well, lack of anything (time, money, space, etc). This is an invitation to let yourself dream without limits and to tease out the things that haven’t come up in other parts of this process. I make my board and then go over each image and word to see what it has to tell me about the holiday of my dreams (see my board below).
Holiday Dream Board by Cheryl
Now we have some information about what you really want to enjoy this season! It’s time to pull it all together and come up with ideas of how to make it happen. This can require thinking about what a feeling or desire means to you. For example, if peace is a feeling you want to have then what does peace mean to you? What things feel like peace to you or bring you peace? Is being alone for a time each day what you really need to feel peaceful? Or is it more that you really want to have peaceful interactions with your family? What helps you to feel the deep calm at your core that is Peace? Here are the steps I use to go from dreams to plans:
- First go through your lists of feelings, desires, and what you really want to do (all of the things we’ve been discovering up to now) and highlight the most delicious and important ones to you. We’ve been gathering a lot of hopes and dreams, now we get to choose the ones we truly want to focus on.
- Next we’ll look at each highlighted desire. As I go through them I brainstorm ways to bring that into my life now. For example, I want to spend more time creating this year, so I made a list of things I’d love to make. I began with those I can do right now – without any shopping or other deterrents. I have all I need to make candles, so that is first on my list! I can also make collage art – yay! I love that! I’d like to make some ornaments too, but since I don’t have a clear idea of what I want to make yet I’ll need to play with ideas, maybe do some research, and probably go shopping. So, I’ll set that one aside for later. Make a list of your lovely ideas! I use different colors of highlighter to prioritize my list (pink for definitely and soon; yellow for yes, please, but a bit later; green for maybe, we’ll see, etc.).
- For feelings the process may be a bit different. I tend to allow myself to feel the feeling first. This requires setting aside time and then letting yourself sense into the feeling. Pleasure is one of the things I want to enjoy this holiday season so I listed some things that have felt like joy in the past. I imagined myself doing the things on my list. Baking cookies (yummy smells, tastes, and the fun of making), enjoying the process of decorating (creativity and play), listening to holiday music (restful pleasure and sweet memories), and candlelight (light, warmth and beauty) are things that have often given me pleasure – and they’re easy to do. But the key is to remember that the intention of feeling pleasure (or whatever you want to feel) is more important than what you do to bring the feeling about. I know I can bake cookies and feel stressed, frustrated, and unhappy! So, it’s vital to step into this process with the intention to allow yourself the enjoyment of it. And if it still doesn’t feel like what you want then delete it and move on to your next idea.
Make it Real:
Once you have some ideas that light you up it’s time to schedule these into your calendar! This is a key step to make things happen, but also to make it lovely and pleasing. This is where your prioritized list comes in handy. Editing is very important in interior design, but even more so in life! This is why I adore post-it notes! I write my hopes, dreams, and plans on them, place them on my calendar and move around or delete until it looks like a life I can love! If it starts to feel like too much then recall the reasons you chose these things to do, use those desires and feelings to flow through your plans and bring joy. And if it is still too much then just focus on the feelings you want and post those on your calendar. I’ve had extremely stressful holidays and simply remembering that love, peace, and joy are real things that I can feel at any time has saved my bacon frequently! What about things you feel you MUST do that you don’t want to do at all? Well, that is another entire topic, but I have used the choice to try and see the very best – even in awful circumstances – to help me enjoy at least parts of the experience. The comfort of sunshine, a cup of tea, a friend’s voice, a smile, or (and this has often worked for me!) an irreverent sense of humor can all offer you light in the dark.
Now go forth and enjoy all of the blessings of life and this beautiful holiday season!! I know I’m going to! By the way, this is a process I use at the holidays, but it can also be used for any event, season, or project that you want to really be clear about and truly enjoy. My wish for you is tons of love, blessings unnumbered, and the clarity of peace this Holiday Season!!
PS If you want to ask a question or tell me about your holiday plans (I’d love to hear from you!) you can email me at email@example.com. To join my email list (and receive a free mini-course on creating altars) you can look here. If you would like to talk I offer free sessions for 20 -30 minutes and that can scheduled right here.