For the Love of Holiday Movies

Beautiful snow at my house

There may be 12 days of Christmas, and 24 days in an advent calendar, but there are at least 20 required holiday movies to watch in my world – and I wanted to share my favorites with you!

For me it all begins with movies that aren’t actual Christmas movies, but have great Christmas scenes. The next phase of viewing includes movies that occur at Christmas time. And finally as it get closer to Christmas I watch the classic holiday movies that I’ve loved for year (and years…). Mixed in are a few fun movies that I may still watch (even though my son is an adult now). My fave movie lists are below – maybe you’ll see one of your own favorites, or find a new fave! Each movie has a link to more information in case you’re interested. If the weather outside is frightful, or you’re wrapping gifts, or just want to relax into the holiday spirit, movies about Christmas are one of my favorite parts of the season!

Movies with awesome Christmas/Holiday scenes:

Christmastime movies:

Christmas Classics:

Fun Movies to enjoy with, or without, children:

And even a couple for the New Year!:

{ Note: Because many of these movies are from a different time period than ours they aren’t all what some would call acceptable viewing. So, of course,exercise your freedom to choose and don’t watch anything that upsets your own sensibilities.}

I wish for you the most delicious holiday season!! Drop me a line at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com and let me know your favorite movies of the season! Or share your love of one of the movies mentioned here. I’d love to hear from you!

Happy Holidays!!

Love,

Cheryl

Savoring Life Each Day

Turning Leaf on Red by Cheryl

Are you ready to Savor?

Hasn’t this been a fascinating year? It has been a year of review, release, and re-imagining for me. I’m at one of those places in life where the old ways and why’s of doing things no longer ring true, or inspire and motivate me either. That is actually quite a bit scary!! But also really exciting. 

One of my touchstones this year has been my Word of the Year – Embrace. I’m not sure what I would have done without it honestly! Really Embracing all of the good-bye’s, hello’s (and potential hello’s) this year has been the most helpful thing I could do. What a tumultuous journey! Whew! But as August ended I sensed that my work with the Word Embrace was pretty much done. (You can learn more about that here in my video.). It’s time for a new Word!! I’ve never changed my Word mid-year before, but I’m really excited about it trying it out now. Have you even changed yours? I’d love to hear about it!! (Email me at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com and tell me more!)

Since I’ve written a LOT about Word of the Year this year (and you know in the past too 🙂 And here’s my e-course about WOTY too.) I wanted to share this big change with you all and so…..(ta-da!!!) my new Word is Savor. My Words tend to evolve one into another and this is no exception – it just happened a bit early is all! Embracing life has moved me to a desire to Savor it. This is what I need now, and as with any Word, also what I want to learn more about too.

This time of year really lends itself to Savoring, doesn’t it? And it doesn’t have to be your Word for you to enjoy it either. Here is what I intend to “delight in, enjoy, or relish” (also get off on, revel in, or groove on – thank you Merriam-Webster!) during this gorgeous season. Perhaps you’ll join me! Let’s savor….

  • That Autumn smell – ohhh, yum!
  • The colors of Fall. Right now I’m imagining a golden-orange tree against a deep blue sky!
  • Shorter days
  • Coziness inside; and my favorite sweaters and denim jacket outside
  • Pulling out my boots and warm socks
  • Enjoying harvest, Halloween, football, and raking leaves!
  • Apple orchards and pumpkin patches
  • All of the mums and pumpkins
  • Bike rides and walks through crunchy leaves
  • Rainy, cozy days inside
  • Lighting a fire, and candles – lots of candles
  • Lazy weekends (no mowing!)
  • Putting the garden to bed
  • The very last picnics and motor bike rides
  • Exchanging ice cream treats for warm apple crisp
  • And planning and anticipating the coming of the Solstice Holidays

How could we not want to savor our lives and create beauty in this gorgeous season? I hope you all have a divine Autumn season and a fabulous fourth quarter!!
 
Lots of Love,
Cheryl

Create a Word of the Year Book

 

Hey all – look at the time! The 4th Quarter is starting soon – where are you with your Word of the Year? I’m laughing now because my personal journey has been bumpy, as it usually is at this point of the year. The good news is that September and the last Quarter are great times to revive your Word and have fun playing with it. Your Word can really make the special events of the last part of the year very meaningful for you.

If you want lots of ideas for ways to engage with your Word you can sign up for my free e-course about that right here. It’s full of fun suggestions and things to do! (And you can look here for even more about Word of the Year!! Be sure to scroll down as this post will be at the top.)

In fact, above you’ll find a video walk-through of my Word of the Year book. I mention it in the course, but it helps to see it in a video, I think. Despite how it may sound in the video (and BTW I’m not being perfectionist in that video at all – a rough-ish video, indeed :)) I do choose a Word each year (since 2009!), but I don’t always add it to my WOTY book. It all depends on how you want to experience your Word and if you want to take the time to create a book. I wanted to show you some of the things you might share in a book to engage with your Word. It’s a great way, as well, to have something tangible to look back at this year, and in later years. I love how during the year that my Word was Flourishing my journey was all about me understanding what that actually meant and felt like for me. I know that because my book from that year is ALL about that exploration. And it’s still really helpful and relevant information for me.

Here are some ideas and tips for making your own book for your Word of the Year (and you can start any time!):

  • I made my book from a 8.5″x11″ scrapbook I had around the house. I like that I can use varying sizes of page protectors in it for all kinds of different pages. But you could use a basic binder, or a sketch book, etc. You could create it digitally too. I also used paper, cardstock, and other paper crafting types of products. You could collect cool ephemera that relates to your word and incorporate that too. So many options!
  • Consider the things you want to remember and record for your Word, and also how often you want to check in with it, and then create some projects that reflect those desires.
  • Some ideas are:
    • Poetry
    • Photography
    • Journaling prompts to write about
    • Collages or other artwork you make
    • Tarot spread(s)
    • A mini scrapbook of WOTY projects or field trips
    • A written record of your experiences with your Word
    • Word Play – what your Word means to you, how you chose it, why you want to experience it, ways you want to share it or use it in your life, synonyms, quotes, etc.
    • And there are more ideas in the video…
  • Then set aside time to regularly add something to your book and experience your Word in a deeper way.
  • Don’t worry if you let it go for a while, just enjoy yourself when you do take time to engage.
  • Go back and look through your book – see the things you’ve learned and accomplished!

Next year I may make a junk journal version of this book and keep it fresh! I love new ideas!!! I hope this is of help to you in your Word of the Year journey. I’d love to hear how things are going. Drop me a line at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com.

Hugs and Happy Word Play,

Love, Cheryl

What the Heart Knows {simple tool series #3}

Tulip (by Cheryl)

The short version of this tool is – check in with your heart, especially when you aren’t sure. OK, go forth! But seriously, this is a practice that I use all day and every day now. It’s so ingrained that I didn’t even think of it as a “tool” when I was coming up with ideas for this series (Simple Tools for Changing Times), but it’s probably my most helpful practice of all. Your heart knows…as they say! And that is true. When you listen to your heart you’re in alignment with your values, and needs, and your true Self. It took some practice when I first began to be able to feel clearly what my heart was saying, and also to remember to actually check in.

Here are a few tips to help you to hear your heart.

Why: This tool helps you to know yourself better. It will assist you in embracing your desires, caring for your needs, and allow you to really enjoy your life! Your body and your heart know what is truly needed and desired. Your mind will get busy, confused, and lost in stories. We all have lots of “rules” and reasons for not doing what’s in our best, most joyful (and healthiest) interest, but your heart only wants you to live a life of love and joy. It’s also a great way to get clear on things that are hard to “figure out”. I love to use it for decisions – the more immediate and important the better information you’ll get.

What: I’m talking about a practice of checking in with yourself regularly and using the sensations around your heart area to let you know when you’re “on track” for you. You simply get quiet, look inside, and be aware of the feelings in your heart area. For example, when something is “right” for me I feel a softness, expansion, warmth, and a glow around my heart area. I may see a glow in my mind’s eye too. I may smile (I often smile if it’s really a good idea!), my shoulders may drop and relax, I straighten up my body, I feel expansive and lighter.

Your sensations could be different than mine, though a sense of expansion is the most common description. A way to check this is to think of something absolutely wonderful about your life now and see how your heart feels about that. This tells you your own language of the heart. Conversely, something that doesn’t feel good to your heart tends to show up as contraction, clenching, tightness, folding in (shoulders bent, etc.), tightness of breath, and even discomfort in your throat and/or stomach areas. If your heart is neutral about something that will feel, well, neutral, in your body too.

When: I use this tool all day long. It’s perfect for having a quick check in to see how you’re really doing right now. I like to make sure I’m on track with my internal wisdom. We often get all bundled up in what’s happening and forget to stop and look inside. There’s wisdom there! And the encouragement to pause and look inward, just for a moment even, makes for a much more delightful day. Plus, it feels really GOOD when your heart is happy! I want more of that!

My favorite way to use this tool is for decisions that I’m confused or distressed about. My head can go ‘round and ‘round a subject and make me crazy! But my heart generally has a good idea about what I truly want and need. I also may ask for assistance with this. You can ask your higher Self, an angel, God, or any guide to help you to understand what you are hearing, and to hear truly. Getting clear on a decision may take some practice and require quiet time and focus. The best way for me is to ask, sense, and then write – as I often get more information that way. As I write, I’ll keep checking in to make sure I’m still listening to my heart.

The responses you get aren’t really yes” or “no” answers, though sometimes you may use them that way. They tell you what is in alignment with your spirit or soul. You can do anything you choose, this is just more information to help you. I prefer to go with my heart and have made a commitment to that, but still there are times that I don’t. And following your heart may just mean finding a new approach, or altering your thinking about something and making it work for you. I may just keep making shifts or trying new ideas until it all feels “right”. This isn’t about rules or “shoulds”, but about honoring yourself and being open to what you desire and need to live a delicious and meaningful life.

Wishing you love, clarity, and lots of pleasure in this season of the heart! Drop me a line with questions or comments at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com (or look here). If you have a question or want more help with this practice you can go here and schedule a free 20 minute session and we’ll work on it together!

Love, Cheryl

 

Holiday Happiness

How to Fashion the Holiday of Your Dreams

Oh, Christmas Tree! (Image by Cheryl)

Lofty ambitions, yes?? But it is definitely possible to enjoy the holidays no matter what is going on in your life! (I can say this from personal experience of major loss, huge upheavals, and fears of dark winter days). Even if there are no big events that have caused us woe we can hold a lot of negative expectations of the holiday season – crowds, grumpy shopkeepers, unpleasant relatives, money stresses, etc. On the other hand we may have very hopeful expectations, especially about other people in our lives, that are not realized and make us feel unsatisfied and unhappy. But I want you to consider this – the only true maker of happiness in your life is you. That is a beautiful power for good! And not just for you – it blesses everyone you come into contact with! I’m not saying you don’t derive joy from your relationships and situations, but that you are the decider of what does make you happy. And with that in mind I came up with my Holiday Dreaming Practice. I can’t tell you how much I have needed it over the years!!

The Big Picture:

As with most things I suggest, it all begins with the Big Picture – or dreaming of what you desire! I began my professional life as an interior designer and I still find the design process has a lot of relevance to creating anything – especially a beautiful life! In design we begin with the DREAM – un-edited, un-purged, wide-open desire!! This is the road to clarity, and also motivation and intentionBelow are some questions to consider and write in a handy place (you know, so you can find it again!).

  •  What do you really want to do this holiday season? This is a list of non-negotiables (I really want to make Christmas cookies with my kids); and the things you have always wanted to do, but perhaps don’t (I really want to go see the Nutcracker ballet!); plus those delightful things that get pushed aside (I really want to spend time each day with a cup of coffee enjoying the Christmas tree and day-dreaming).
  • How do you really want to feel? I’m guessing stressed isn’t on this list! By writing down and being aware of what you really want to feel you’re able to make it a priority, and even with the holiday rush that may come you can find those feelings – regardless of what you may be doing. My list includes feeling pleasure in the season, feeling the spaciousness of plenty, feeling the delight of creating a beautiful experience, feeling the joy of love, and the enjoyment of making things.
  • What do you honestly expect? This is a question that can go several ways, but it’s key to be honest with yourself. I used to write things like a gift I wanted, or snow, or to be very happy, but the truth is that was what I hoped for. What I really expected was frustrations, dark days, cold weather, and sadness due to loss. It’s true that these things exist each and every holiday session, BUT (you were sure there was a but, yes?) I also can expect so many other lovely and beautiful things. What I learned was if I wasn’t aware, then my depressing expectations wound take over. They say what you resist persists – but also what you allow to lie in wait can jump you. That is OK if you will also make time for the beauty of life. Sadness, and fear, and angst are parts of life, but love, and joy, and peace are what I call the Truth with a capital “T”. Also they are what this blessed season is all about!!

Take a Trip:

Our next step is taking a Trip of Imagination. You can do this several ways. You could write out a story of the best holiday season you can imagine. Include all of the smells, sights, feelings, and joys you encounter. Put yourself right into this story and feel the pleasures now! Or you could create a board of images and ideas. I used to fill my office door with photos, ideas, and beautiful images that spoke to me of the holiday I wanted to have. Making a collage like this on your refrigerator and getting the whole family involved would be a lot of fun too! Just looking at the images is a reminder of what you want to enjoy. This year I don’t have a handy door so I made a Dream Board – and I think I like that even better!! A Dream Board is like an Insight Board (see how to make one of those here!) but the focus is on the dreams that you have but perhaps have stuffed away, or the ones you dismiss due to lack of, well, lack of anything (time, money, space, etc). This is an invitation to let yourself dream without limits and to tease out the things that haven’t come up in other parts of this process. I make my board and then go over each image and word to see what it has to tell me about the holiday of my dreams (see my board below).

Holiday Dream Board by Cheryl

Ideas, Ideas:

Now we have some information about what you really want to enjoy this season! It’s time to pull it all together and come up with ideas of how to make it happen. This can require thinking about what a feeling or desire means to you. For example, if peace is a feeling you want to have then what does peace mean to you? What things feel like peace to you or bring you peace? Is being alone for a time each day what you really need to feel peaceful? Or is it more that you really want to have peaceful interactions with your family? What helps you to feel the deep calm at your core that is Peace? Here are the steps I use to go from dreams to plans:

  • First go through your lists of feelings, desires, and what you really want to do (all of the things we’ve been discovering up to now) and highlight the most delicious and important ones to you. We’ve been gathering a lot of hopes and dreams, now we get to choose the ones we truly want to focus on.
  • Next we’ll look at each highlighted desire. As I go through them I brainstorm ways to bring that into my life now. For example, I want to spend more time creating this year, so I made a list of things I’d love to make. I began with those I can do right now – without any shopping or other deterrents. I have all I need to make candles, so that is first on my list! I can also make collage art – yay! I love that! I’d like to make some ornaments too, but since I don’t have a clear idea of what I want to make yet I’ll need to play with ideas, maybe do some research, and probably go shopping. So, I’ll set that one aside for later. Make a list of your lovely ideas! I use different colors of highlighter to prioritize my list (pink for definitely and soon; yellow for yes, please, but a bit later; green for maybe, we’ll see, etc.).
  • For feelings the process may be a bit different. I tend to allow myself to feel the feeling first. This requires setting aside time and then letting yourself sense into the feeling. Pleasure is one of the things I want to enjoy this holiday season so I listed some things that have felt like joy in the past. I imagined myself doing the things on my list. Baking cookies (yummy smells, tastes, and the fun of making), enjoying the process of decorating (creativity and play), listening to holiday music (restful pleasure and sweet memories), and candlelight (light, warmth and beauty) are things that have often given me pleasure – and they’re easy to do. But the key is to remember that the intention of feeling pleasure (or whatever you want to feel) is more important than what you do to bring the feeling about. I know I can bake cookies and feel stressed, frustrated, and unhappy! So, it’s vital to step into this process with the intention to allow yourself the enjoyment of it. And if it still doesn’t feel like what you want then delete it and move on to your next idea.

Make it Real:

Once you have some ideas that light you up it’s time to schedule these into your calendar! This is a key step to make things happen, but also to make it lovely and pleasing. This is where your prioritized list comes in handy. Editing is very important in interior design, but even more so in life! This is why I adore post-it notes! I write my hopes, dreams, and plans on them, place them on my calendar and move around or delete until it looks like a life I can love! If it starts to feel like too much then recall the reasons you chose these things to do, use those desires and feelings to flow through your plans and bring joy. And if it is still too much then just focus on the feelings you want and post those on your calendar. I’ve had extremely stressful holidays and simply remembering that love, peace, and joy are real things that I can feel at any time has saved my bacon frequently! What about things you feel you MUST do that you don’t want to do at all? Well, that is another entire topic, but I have used the choice to try and see the very best – even in awful circumstances – to help me enjoy at least parts of the experience. The comfort of sunshine, a cup of tea, a friend’s voice, a smile, or (and this has often worked for me!) an irreverent sense of humor can all offer you light in the dark.

Now go forth and enjoy all of the blessings of life and this beautiful holiday season!! I know I’m going to! By the way, this is a process I use at the holidays, but it can also be used for any event, season, or project that you want to really be clear about and truly enjoy. My wish for you is tons of love, blessings unnumbered, and the clarity of peace this Holiday Season!!

With Love,

Cheryl

PS If you want to ask a question or tell me about your holiday plans (I’d love to hear from you!) you can email me at cheryl@theintrepidgoddess.com. To join my email list (and receive a free mini-course on creating altars) you can look here. If you would like to talk I offer free sessions for 20 -30 minutes and that can scheduled right here.

The Hurrier I Go….

Christmas Past: My sweet kitty under the tree.

Christmas Past: My sweet kitty under the tree.

It’s at this time of the year I remember my mother’s wisdom most. Our family was really busy at Christmas time with 2 stores to run and all of the holiday’s excitement as well. And yet Mom always made Christmas special – she loved it and created an amazing experience for us from food, to decorations, to presents, to fun things to do. Until I was a mom I had no idea how hard that was to accomplish. Or what a joy it is to make something so delicious.

I’m having an extra busy Christmas season this year. We’re fixing up the house we’re moving to, keeping the one we’re selling in pristine condition, packing, moving….Whew! And please, let’s not even talk about Christmas preparation! It’s pretty stressful and I tend to start rushing, running, getting breathless, not sleeping, always planning and thinking ahead. I’m certainly not spending time in the moment where I am so I can enjoy my life and this gorgeous season. And that reminds me of a saying of my Mom’s: “The hurrier I go the behinder I get”. It always used to make me laugh, but it’s true! My rushing and stressing isn’t making things go faster or more smoothly at all. In fact it made me sick and farther behind than ever.

And, of course, I know better! I kept telling myself this was no way to do things, but I just didn’t listen to myself. Today as I’m feeling better and starting to rush around again I heard my Mom’s voice “The hurrier I go….” And I laughed and tuned in again to the world as it is right now. If you tend to get wrapped up in all there is to do in a busy season here are few tips I can share that work for me to come down to Earth, slow down, and, you know, get less “behinder” – or at least have more fun (and stay healthy) while I do my work:

  • For goodness sake – Breathe!!! When you’re holding your breath or breathing shallowly you aren’t doing yourself any favors. Or making life easier or more delightful. Pull in a nice deep breath and let it out, be grateful that it’s so easy, and available, and calming to just breathe.
  • While you’re breathing, wiggle your toes. Notice you have a lovely body, toes that move and support you. Lungs to breathe into. Legs to stand on, arms to hug someone with, a head to lay on your pillow when you rest. You can dance, and sing, and make things with such an amazing body.
  • Open your eyes (really open them) and look around. Where are you? What do you see? Do you see beauty, or something comforting? Do you see loved ones, nature, your home or office? Be where you are and look for the most delicious thing in that place. Let the experience of that object, person, situation, or sound fill you with joy! Rest there, in that joy; soak it up.
  • Next, think (calmly…) about what has you rushing about. First, I want you to assume there is an easier and more pleasant way to do whatever it is. Know that you will discover this easy, pleasant way when you allow yourself to let go of your preconceived notions of how things must go and what you need to do to make it happen. Let me say here you can (and will) certainly proceed the way you want to proceed, and if that means you will go on rushing, that’s fine. Hey, I’m with you. There are times that is the only way for me too. But I want you to be honestly aware that there are other choices, for sure. Other ways to make it happen that are different and probably a lot more fun. Ways that allow you to drop perfection, allow you to enjoy the process, allow you to ask for help, ways that honor your needs. These ways will certainly make the process better not just for you, but for everyone around you (just ask my poor sweet husband what a drag I’ve been the last few weeks!).
  • Brainstorm, make a list, allow yourself to dream of the perfect solution, write it down as if it has already occurred. And then step away for a bit. Sleep on it, rest. And come back to your dream process. Do you see new ways to do this? Is there anything that can be dropped, farmed out? Can you at least see how you can do what you want, achieve the outcome you desire, and still have fun, as well as a healthy body and mind? What would be the best outcome and a delightful way to get there? How can you make that happen?

I know I’ll be following this list of steps for the foreseeable future! I have my brainstorming done and now I’m going to take long rest and see how things look in the morning. I already feel more hopeful that I can make everything happen – and in a lovely way. I hope this is of help to you too. And I want to wish you delight-filled holidays and all of the pleasures of the winter season!

Lots of Love, Cheryl