Lately I’m regrouping, revising, and just plain starting over in several ways. I’m trying to get across the ground slowly, letting it support me, allowing myself to feel my way. I know that some days require lots of movement, but overall I’m trying to go slowly, be at peace, and mostly to rest and have fun while I allow clarity to come. Some days I really think this is way too hard!
I’m used to pushing, go-getting, working hard, making it happen. Or panicking, stressing & feeling paralyzed. Whew! Neither of those approaches are fun when you’re feeling lost. (Ummm, or very effective…) But they are “easy” because I’m used to them. And yet, I know that when I can let myself slow down, feel my feelings, lighten up, enjoy life, and look at the resistance, then I’m on my way to clear knowing about what to do next. Here’s what I’ve been doing to move slowly & joyfully to my next steps, and to allow the panic, fear, and resistance while not letting them stop or define me. Maybe there’s something here to help you too. I hope so!
The first thing is to not be too bossy. Bossy Girl is a fun and intuition killer, that’s for sure! Instead I check in with my desire, my heart, and I do what feels like pleasure. I let myself let go of the “rules”. I cut myself slack. I tell myself things like: “I always have plenty of time”, “I’m taking vital steps right now by relaxing and allowing my intuition to speak up”, “I’m gradually releasing all resistance and fear”, “I’ll know when the time is right”. Right now it’s time to relax and let go of the strain.
Next, I look under the bed at those monsters that keep me from moving out of my safety zone. For me the resistance is always about thoughts I’ve picked up along the way that aren’t in the least bit helpful. I used to try to change them, but often that brought up more resistance. Now, I write and write until I think I’m to the bottom of them (those beliefs of inadequacy, and idiocy, lack, and shame of failure – messy, ugly stuff). I let myself feel how crappy they feel. I accept the pain of them. And then I set them aside with love (after all, I do think they want to help me) and do something life affirming. I let them work themselves out. And usually they do! They’ll probably pop up later, but I know what to do, and each time they’re a little bit different and I know I’m getting clearer and clearer, and kinder and kinder, and that is what helps me to work with them and not be stopped.
The next part of this process is to do something life affirming. Do something that makes you feel alive, happy, and awakens the feelings of joy you expect to receive from those things you really want to do, but are feeling lost, or stuck, or unsure about. Open up to potential, and serendipity, and messages, and help. Life affirming activities will vary from person to person, and situation to situation, but here are a few things I’m doing now:
- Listening to a LOT of Abraham-Hicks – Divine Intervention, I call it! Anything that inspires and/or calms you will do.
- Getting back into a good self-reflective groove. For me right now this means spending time journaling, thinking, resting and thinking not at all, watching clouds go by, pulling oracle cards and seeing what they have to say to me, taking naps, making tiny art projects, listing ideas (so many ideas), and generally getting to know myself better. It’s amazing how I can lose myself in the rest of the world and other’s needs and ideas – so, time-out to focus on me.
- Taking my sweet time….it really is sweet when I go slowly too. Why the rush anyway? I’m amazed at how fast I think I need to go. Is there plenty that needs doing? Heck yeah! Has rushing around ever meant I got it all done? No, not really.
- Hanging out with my dear son while he’s around – delightful!!
- Participating in August Break (a daily photography mindfulness practice) with Susannah Conway on Instagram. In fact, this post was inspired by the prompt for today’s photograph – Ground. Serendipity indeed! Such fun to engage in the photography and especially to interact with other participants. If you don’t participate in this already you may want to give it a try!
The best part for me about the process above is that now my focus is no longer on the stress and strain of “Whatever will I do next!!!”, but on the way life is gorgeous, and safe, and full of promise. Do I know yet what I’m going to do next? Nope. But each day more and more ideas come, and more and more confidence, and more and more delight, and that is how I want to live. And I have faith that the rest will come too. In fact, the last part of this process is FAITH. And when you get all worked up again remember your faith, and repeat the process as needed.
Part of making things happen is taking action, but a huge part is inspiration, and action without it is often just hard work.
Lots of love! I hope this was of help or there was an idea here that resonated. Contact me with any questions or comments, or to share your story, at firstname.lastname@example.org. Or set up a time to talk (for free, of course) right here.