As I begin the week I like to take an intuitive “look out”.
I imagine myself on a big hill looking out over the landscape that is my week to come as I see it from here. I often see sparkles, gatherings of images, bright light and shadows. I see life.
Today when I looked it was pretty much just a grey, dim and sad view. Some weeks are like that. This is when I know I need a break! And a shift – of thinking, of timing, of doing. A break will allow the shift to happen and the shift helps me enjoy a break! And all of that will bring light to my week that I can’t see right now for the dimness. When we focus on a day, or an hour, or a week we look at what needs to be started, accomplished, done, etc. We make a list, plan, schedule it, take steps, be diligent. Be responsible. And that’s just fine when we’re feeling rested, enthused, and in charge. But then we aren’t actually here to do JUST “work”, are we?
We’re also here to love ourselves and others, to enjoy our bodies, to play and create, to explore new ideas and pleasures. We are here to LIVE. But often only one part of living makes it onto our to-do list – the part where we “work”. There’s nothing wrong with work, but there is something exhausting and diminishing about a life that’s heavily focused in just one life area. Then instead of responsibility being an honor and delight, it becomes a misery, a shackle, an anchor. So here is what I’m going to try this week – and if you’re feeling a bit mashed and tied down you might want to try it too!
Two Steps to a Better Week:
Step 1: Find the Time to Rest
This may mean setting things aside. And that’s good! When you’re feeling all washed out and grey it’s not the best time to tackle that big project any way. Rest is so important when things look dark. It allows you to feel your emotions and honor them, to let them flow as they’re created to. It allows you to untangle thoughts, gain perspective, let those shoulders drop, set the burdens down. You know – to REST!
How will I rest, you may ask…and I say in any way that works for you. I like a nice nap, or a walk among the trees, or by water. A coffee shop visit with just my favorite magazine to accompany me is always good, or creating a collage. You may like a day on the lake, a nap on the beach, to write, to go to a dance class, to bake, or to play a game of basketball with friends. We may both want to do absolutely nothing at all. (Yea!) Whatever it is – squish it in! You know you can if you see it as a priority. Most of the above can be done in less than an hour. And isn’t this at least as important as cleaning out the fridge, or going to that meeting (the one you know you can move to next week…)? Your health, and outlook, and your very life depend on how you care for them.
Step 2: See Things in a Different Light
Those things you decide to do anyway this week, and those you really cannot put off – can you see them in a different way? I know I make things in my life a burden just by how I see them. Heck! That’s the easy part! But I can also make them a pleasure. It’s all about how I choose to see and approach them.
For example, I have a tax appointment this week. That could be stressful! But I can see it another way too. Honestly, it’s an area where I don’t feel very capable or safe – but what if I am quite capable of being prepared (actually, I am mostly prepared…), or of being prosperous (certainly prosperous enough to pay taxes…); or capable of being joyful, of being safe? What if I have faith in my very capable tax accountant? I can even be happy I’m being so responsible! I really have lots of options.
I can definitely choose stress for each task and project I have on my list this week, or I can choose something else. Thoughts aren’t facts. I’m not even sure facts are facts when we can give each one such a slant. I can see the spaces in my schedule this week instead of focusing on the blocked out areas. Then I can also choose to see the opportunities available to me in each blocked off space. I can see it all as play, and none of it as work. I can let something go and choose not to do it at all. Ever.
We often see ourselves as stuck, but the truth is that the only thing that sticks us in a place is our choices. We may still choose to be “stuck”, but we can also see that we are choosing it – and why. That really makes such a difference!
This week I choose to light up my week with rest, and revitalized tasks, and joyful responsibilities! When I look out over the week now I see lots of sparkles! And that’s how I like it.
To a sparkly week!!
Lots of Love to You,
PS And if you’d like some help with those grey times, in finding time for rest, or in seeing things in a new way I have openings in my schedule for life coaching clients. You can find out more right here. I’d love to help. <3